Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst adversary.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two – my urges and achieving my goals.

Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time – it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you to take a second and ask yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”

It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff – like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.

Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

That’s so untrue!

Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.